It is so heartbreaking to see the video I first saw at Eden’s blog about a caregiver abusing a Filipino lola. I just can’t imagine sending our own mother to a home where she would be cared for by strangers and we won’t know how she would truly be treated.
It is my impression that some people are so busy that they don’t have time to take care of their elderly on their own. Or it could be more economical to send them in a nursing home.
I’ve visited a nursing home in Korea that is being run by Catholic nuns. That was years ago but I was impressed at how “high-tech” the place was. I pitied the grandmothers and grandfathers I saw who were confined to their beds because they’re too old to move. I was really surprised to learn that such a facility exists in this country where it is considered a duty for the children to take care of their parents when they’re old. In a Korean family, this responsibility traditionally falls on the hands of the first son. However, with my Korean family it seems that my PILs would prefer to stay with us even if my husband is only the third son.