Gift giving in Korea

After seven years in Korea, I still somehow get confused about the gift giving culture in this country. When I first came here, I had to prepare gifts for my husband’s family but I didn’t know what to get for them. So I just brought with me traditional Filipino products that I got from a famous department store in Manila. It was an epic failure!

During the holidays (Chuseok and Seollal), popular items are the gift boxes available in the supermarkets. The more expensive the better but almost all of them, especially the fruits are expensive during this time. Fruits always work as presents for a Korean family. Can you imagine that a box of 10 pears is worth about 60,000 won or 52 USD? Korean beef is also pricey like a kilogram of steak cut would set one back about 100,000 won or 86 USD. Cheaper items would include gift box of socks or towels, just make sure they’re of good quality.

Thankfully, it isn’t a norm in my husband’s family to give gifts during the holidays. In the rare occasion that they do give on special days (usually birthdays), the preferred item is always jewelry or cosmetics for women.

Things that we usually receive during Chuseok are toiletries and food products like canned tuna, SPAM and olive oil. I like getting soaps and tubes of toothpaste. We are currently using the last tube of toothpaste from last year’s Chuseok presents. We usually give away canned tuna or SPAM to our building security guards since my husband doesn’t like those things.

Names and amount given are written in a guestbook for weddings, funerals and birthdays.
In weddings, funeral and birthdays, it is customary to give money. The amount depends on the relationship and status of the guest. For example, 30,000 won is normal for co-workers in the same level. They are placed in a white envelope and the amount of money and the giver’s name is recorded in a guest book. Someday, the recipient is expected to return the same amount of money to the giver when he attends a similar event for the giver.

For first birthdays, cash or 24 karat gold ring specifically for this event is preferred. We didn’t have a traditional “dol janji” or first birthday party for my son but we still received rings on his first birthday. Oh well, we had four intimate celebrations.

First birthday ring - 24 K and 3.75g

Have you been invited to a housewarming? Customary gifts are toilet paper and laundry or dishwashing detergent for prosperity (since bubbles multiply fast so hopefully it will be the same for the homeowner).

Always receive gifts using both hands. If it’s something that could be carried with one hand (as with a bag), support the receiving hand with your other hand. Confusing? Hehehe.

Should you open a wrapped gift in front of the giver? This one is a no-no or if you’re really excited to see what’s inside, ask first if it’s okay.

So are you ready with your Chuseok presents? Make sure that your present for your in-laws are well-thought of and of course, expensive!

Before I forget, make sure that wrapped presents are beautifully done. No pranks like wrapping the item in several layers and don’t use recycled boxes or gift wrappers.

14 thoughts on “Gift giving in Korea

  • September 20, 2010 at 2:43 am
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    wow!…what a good info!…now i know….thank u!

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  • September 20, 2010 at 10:00 am
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    why do we all like the toiletries set?kkkkkkk….just like you i still have enough toiletries from last year’s chuseok presents. i envy the lack of gift giving practice during the holidays in your hubby’s family….kkkk.

    p.s. fruits for chuseok gift is really a burden nowadays…it’s way too expensive, we ended up buying bok-bun-ja and other classic korean wines instead

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  • September 20, 2010 at 5:55 pm
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    how do you greet a korean during chuseok? Happy Chuseok? Happy Chuseok Festival? thanks!

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    • September 20, 2010 at 10:54 pm
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      It could be as simple as 추석 잘 보내세요 (Chu-seok chal bo-nae-se-yo) which means “Have a good holiday” or like what my wonjangnim wrote on our gift boxes of coffee today: 행복하고 따뜻한 추석 보내세요 (haeng-bok ha-go dda-ddeut-han chu-seok bo-nae-se-yo) or “Have a happy and warm Chuseok holiday”

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      • September 21, 2010 at 11:34 am
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        ohhh. thanks ate bechay!

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  • September 20, 2010 at 7:39 pm
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    Now I know why it causes headache to prepare gifts during Chuseok. Haha Why does gift giving has to be so complicated? *sigh*

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    • September 20, 2010 at 7:45 pm
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      ** Sorry I was dozing… Yeah, why does it have to be so complicated.

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  • September 21, 2010 at 5:04 pm
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    Hi Ms. Betchay, why did you say that,bringing traditional Filipino products as a gift to your husband’s family is an epic failure??? so what would be the best gift you should have to give when you are about to meet your in-laws for the first time??? is there any advice/recommendation??..Thank you very much.

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    • September 29, 2010 at 1:55 am
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      hi Amme! i brought sabutan bags for my sisters in law. they liked it a lot. but they loved my sabutan clutch better. you can check sm department stores. i bought mine from an online/multiply site seller at a lower price. i brought a blanket for my mom in law (baguio style blanket) and she likes it very much. i don’t have a father in law already so i didn’t have a problem about that. as for my brother in law and his family, i just brought them dried mangoes..

      the woman at the CFO before gave us a tip about mother of pearl jewelries.. but i found them too expensive and i also thought that maybe my inlaws have their own collections already so i just opted for the bags and blanket…

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      • October 1, 2010 at 7:30 pm
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        Hi Ms.Jehan,thanx for sharing po,,

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        • October 1, 2010 at 7:54 pm
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          the traditional filipino products i bought for my in-laws can also be considered and epic failure just like betchay……my in-laws were more conscious of the brand and the price….they really don’t think filipino products are well made

          p.s. after our honeymoon in boracay we had to buy tons of after wedding gifts for hubby’s relatives (we bought mother of pearl jewelries) it was expensive alright but they did not appreciate any of it

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  • November 30, 2010 at 10:11 am
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    wow grabe, andaming rules. first rule e dapat “mahal”! ok ah. hehehe.

    by the way, bakit po naging epic failure? 😀

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  • September 18, 2011 at 1:23 pm
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    A friend of mine has adopted a little girl from Korea and wants to make sure she knows about her culture. They are having a Chuseok festival and have invited many people. Could you give me any recommendations as to what I could give/take to a 3 year old little girl that is traditional and can be found in the states. Also could you send me any info at all it would be great that I could give her to help her do things later on. Thank you very much!

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