What is the first thing that comes into your mind when you see a guy wearing a pink shirt? Do you think he’s gay or that he’s comfortable with his sexuality? In the western world (or countries that think they’re western), pink connotes femininity so we usually think that a guy who wears pink is gay.
When my husband and I first lived together, I went through his wardrobe. Most of his 와이샤쓰 (wai-syaseu – dress shirts) are blue but I saw one that is pink. I asked him who bought it and he said his younger sister did. It was in fashion for some time here. I told him not to wear it again. He asked why not and I just said it’s because men don’t wear pink. And he replied “what’s wrong with pink?”
Where I grew up, blue means manly while pink is feminine. I prefer blue over pink and I have a lot of blue shirts myself, does it mean I’m manly? Hehehe… There are no gay men here, I was told. So I asked what aboutHarisu? She’s a transgender and was legally allowed to change her sex. After some time, I thought it’s because they don’t have the same concept of gayness like we have. But then, I’m not a psychologist/sociologist/anyother-ist.
When my sister came here for a visit, she was shocked to see two young policemen holding hands, patting each other’s back and resting their arms on each other’s shoulders. She screamed “gay”. No, we’re not homophobics. One of our nephews is gay and we love him dearly. And I have several gay friends. I was reminded of that time when it was okay to hold hands with the same sex and it was OK. When I was in school, I would hold hands with my girl friends not even for a second thinking it’s gay.
Korean men wear pink tees (and floral shirts) and are vain. They often carry their gf’s handbags/purses too. They sometimes sit with their legs crossed. To some people, either they’re gay or they don’t have the same hang-ups as other men do about their sexuality.
Seeing pictures of Daniel Henney or Hyun Bin wearing pink shirts, or of Jang Dong Gun in his floral get-up doesn’t bother me anymore. I’ve gotten used to it. I don’t think “gay” anymore. It’s just the way they are (vain!). My husband doesn’t wear his pink shirt anymore. It’s really old now and he’s not planning on buying anything pink. We both like blue. However, he still carries my purse (specially when I have to carry my son!) and really, I don’t mind it.